Dating Experts

Neil Strauss

Neil Strauss is by far considered one of the top pickup artists. Here’s one of his interviews on the television show, The View:

From one of Strauss’s recent emails, he wrote what he calls his ELEVEN PICK UP EPIPHANIES:

1. What you look like doesn’t matter. But how you present yourself

does.

2. Nobody is judging you. They’re too busy worrying about what you

think of them. So instead of seeking her approval, give her yours.

Then take it away. Then give it to her again. This is called

flirting.

3. Women do actually like nice guys. They just don’t like weak

guys. So you can still be nice. But you must also be confident–in

yourself, your opinions, and your worthiness and value in the

world. In order for a woman to be with you, she needs to feel safe

with you.

4. It’s not enough to just be yourself. You must be your best self.

5. There’s a thin but important line between being horny and being

sexual. A horny man hits on a woman before she’s attracted to him.

A sexual man waits until she’s attracted to him.

6. Just because you’re interacting doesn’t mean you’re attracting.

Learn to recognize the difference between politeness and interest.

7. To win the heart of a woman, you often have to be willing to

risk losing her.

8. When a girl who you went on a date with in the past and who

suddenly disappeared on you calls out of the blue, it generally

means one thing – so call back right away before she finds someone

else to be with that night.

9. Always call a woman the day after sleeping with her and make her

feel good about having let go with you–even if you don’t want to

see her again or she doesn’t want to see you again. Don’t ruin her

for other guys.

10. Don’t look to your friends or family for approval as you learn

the game. They may like you just the way you are, but not always

for the right reasons. With some “friends,” this is because when

you start looking better, feeling more confident, and succeeding

more than they do, you often end up reminding them of their own

inadequacies and lack of growth.

11. Finally, to quote the wisdom of Canadian hockey player Wayne

Gretzky, “You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.” So

simply by approaching a woman and saying something, no matter how

badly you may bumble, you’ve dramatically increased your odds of

being with her.

How to Get a Girl Friend

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